Deserves You More - Musiq Soulchild
So im kinda in this situation where "WE" are doing everything that couples do, yet that official title is non existent. It's starting to cause problems... Catching feelings is a hard thing especially when its been a long time since someone made you feel that way.... I'm silently fighting for this...I deserve it... to love and be loved.... damn... i remember the days...it felt so damn good
I want that Back...thought it was coming...But Ive realized one thing....
WE ARENT IN A RELATIONSHIP!!!! you know...
We as women sometimes have the habit of staking claim to something that doesn't belong to us.
Somehow we get caught up in these situations where we are playing the role of "wifey" without the official title. Now, if you do this and can handle the repercussions of having a "cut buddy" then by all means do what you do, and do it well! However, if you have fallen victim to being stuck in a "relationship" that isn't truly a relationship, you need to get it together. You cannot expect for a man to make the next step if you are already giving up the ass, cooking dinner, washing his clothes, etc. Explain what the point in making you his "girl" or "wife" is?
Why Buy The Cow When You Can Get The Milk For Free???
We live in the days of Everybody getting free milk and it's getting outa hand. Ladies you can't be mad a man who is doing what he does, if you haven't set any boundaries with him. If he is simply a cut buddy, leave it at that. If he is just a friend, please, just stay friends. Once you cross that line, its very difficult to go back and try to put these restrictions in place. You find yourself doing all the things that his "woman" would do, yet you still get put in that "good friend" category. When his phone rings and its another female, you get upset, yet you never discussed with him the dynamics of your situation.
BIG MISTAKE
When you meet a guy, or if you get involved with one of your friends, it is important that you two have a common understanding of the situation. If not somoene will end up catching feelings and get hurt in the end, and you could ultimately ruin a good friendship. It's best to just put everything on the table, and go from there.
Ladies please stop falling victim, I too have fallen prey to this and it just needs to end. If you cant be a FWB (friends with benefits) then don't pretend too. Just tell your partner what it is you what and need and if he cant fulfill those needs, kick his ass to the curb!
PERIOD!
